I recently announced to my wife that I was going to overtly work on being more outgoing.
I write and perform comedy and theater, I produce shows that involve a lot of talking to others, and I make a podcast wherein I go and interview strangers about their personal lives and yet I’m fairly shy and nervous amongst humans.
But I’m happy when I can communicate and I actually really enjoy connecting with people. I think a lot of shyness is based in fear and fear isn’t something I think I’ll ever get rid of but I only want it to make me do things I’m proud of, so I try to walk towards creative fears while taking serious practical fears, like not letting my kid get hit by a car.
I already have the skills to be social so I think being more outgoing is a matter of intention and practice. If I try harder and take more chances socially I’ll eventually get better at just chatting with people and reaching out to them.
So let this be a warning to all of you, I’m coming at you with a hug, a handshake, or a high-five and then we’re going to become best friends.